Friday, February 22, 2019

Steps To A Healthier Lifestyle

You Can Do This

  • less Soda - more water

    Drink water with meals

  • less alcohol - more tea
  • less sugar - more fruits
  • less meat - more vegetables
  • less driving - more walking
  • less worry - more sleep
  • less anger - more laughter
  • fewer words - more action 

Brain - Healthy

Can you remember your best friend’s phone number, what you had for lunch, and names of familiar faces, what you need from the grocery store or where you left your car? Trying to remember can be emotional and stressful.

Being in the way of life that has become uninteresting and tiresome can cause brain cells to become lazy.

Recent studies concluded that you could give your brain workouts by gardening, putting together jigsaw puzzles, reading, thirty-minute walks and playing board games.

  • Enhances visual perception
  • Hones coordination
  • Improves memory
  • Develops critical thinking
  • Increases production in the brain
  • Heightens creativity

Your brain needs to exercise; needs to be challenged. Also, try eating a nutritious breakfast; studies show that kids who eat a nutritious breakfast do better in school; therefore, you would do better in your day-to-day living.

Digest Food

Cold drinks will coagulate the greasy food that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion by lining the intestine; creating more fat. Once this 'substance' reacts with the acid in your body; it will break down and be absorbed more rapidly than the solid food. The result is weight gain.

Drink room temperature water with your meals. Also, a cup of hot tea or coffee with dessert will keep it all flowing through you like clockwork.

The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals; maybe it is time, we adopt their drinking and eating habits.

Liver Cleansing

Living in a toxic environment means that;

  • We are exposed to toxins regularly.
  • It is impossible to avoid toxicity completely.
  • The food we consume is filled with chemicals.
  • Fortunately, our body consistently removes toxins.

There are two groups of toxins:

  • Water-soluble toxins;  are pushed through the kidneys and the blood.

  • Fat-soluble toxins; are hard to be removed.

The liver is critical in this process. Also, though the digestive system and the detox pathways,  these toxins can enter the blood, "fatty cells, and the brain from the liver. Furthermore, these toxins can linger in our body for years.

Loose stools, slime in the bowel, or constant constipation, it may be a sign of detoxification and pathways problem. Besides, if you experience pain or nausea after eating certain foods, it may mean that there is toxic fatty storage. Struggling with this problem may tell that you should consider taking proper responsibility for your health and pay close awareness to your diet.

There are foods which may help in the process of liver cleansing, such as garlic, green tea, grapefruit, carrots,  apples, avocados, olive oil, lemons and limes, green leafy veggies, turmeric, walnuts, beets, and cabbage.

Healthy Feet

I have always believed if you take care of your feet, your feet will take care of you. It could be as simple as getting regular pedicures.

  • Improves Foot Health
  • Releases Stress
  • Removes Foot Odour
  • Prevents Ingrown Toenails
  • Makes You Look Good

According to research, The Organs of your whole body possess their sensory pressures at the bottom of your foot; if you caress these points, you will find comfort from twinges, pain, and cramps. The heart is on the left foot. This subject is covered in extensive detail in Acupressure education or textbooks.

I believe that God created our organs so well that he imagined even this. He made us walk. Therefore, we will regularly be pressing on specific pressure points and henceforth keeping these organs stimulated at all times!

Balanced Diet

  • Keep a good supply of different fruits, vegetables, low-fat dairy milk, cheese and yogurt and lean proteins (chicken,  pork, fish, or lean beef).
  • Make a plan and keep a daily report of what you eat and drink.
  • Consume foods from all five food groups. Strive to consume foods from each group throughout the day.
  • No skipping meals. Regular, frequent meals and snacks provide a steady flow of energy to your brain.
  • Monitor all Carbohydrates. Try to stick to ½ cup servings.
  • Limit your sugar and saturated fat intake
  • Limit alcoholic beverages to an occasional glass of wine.


"I had been having weak muscles, low energy, fatigue, shortness of breath, bone pain, and anxiety! Whew! Who knew? "Zippity-Do-Da Zippity-Eh, My oh My what a Wonderful Day! Plenty of Sunshine is coming my way,"... brought to me by "Prunes"! What a Wonderful Way!" Rosa Ann 

Engage In Physical Activity Daily

Exercise is a necessity for good health, and those who do will receive the benefits. The difficulty of an aging body is a part of life. Staying fit all through life keeps your body;

  • Healthy - physical challenges
  • Looking good - weight management
  • Active - Helps keep you doing the things you love.

There are many ways to improve our bodies. Here are a few;

  • Take the advice of cats. Stretch when you wake up. Stretch to increase flexibility
  • Warm up & cool down before and after physical activities to help your body transition more quickly.
  • Wear comfortable shoes
  • Stay hydrated - our bodies depend on it.
  • Be as active as possible - walking does the body good.

Friday, February 15, 2019

Wicked Homemade Chili For A Crowd

A Good Cook Dispenses Happiness

Basically, in every kitchen sits an abundance of unexplored ingredients; especially when the process demands little more effort than what's required to switch on the oven.

Anyone can be lured over to their mysterious side and come up with a delicious meal with a twist. If you believe you do not like spicy foods, you might want to give these foods another chance. It is possible that you can develop a tolerance to peppers so you can begin to enjoy them. Remember, even though the peppers might feel uncomfortable, it's just a delusion.

Did you know? Capsaicin binds to and activates TRPD whenever you eat a chili pepper  You're not actually in any danger; your body naturally thinks it is "being exposed" to extreme heat.

There such stylishness that goes into the technique, transforming into something exceptionally remarkable, which demonstrates the mastery of any chef or cook; it strikes me as being a bewitching sort of everyday charm. After all, it's a passion that makes the world go around.

Simple ingredients layered into a classic dish. Go from the fridge to table in less than one hour, they may honestly seem like the product of some black magic.


3 pounds shredded beef roast, cooked
2 cups beef broth
one clove garlic, diced
one onion, peeled and diced
one bell pepper, cored and diced
three pitted prunes, diced
3 cups tomatoes, crushed
1 cup ketchup
1 pound pinto beans, cooked
1 pound kidney beans, cooked
One tablespoon Tabasco sauce
One tablespoon chili powder
One package hot chili powder mix
one milk chocolate bar, king size


Put all ingredients in an oversized pot. Stir well. Cook over medium heat until bubbly. Simmer over low heat for fifteen minutes. Stir often. This dish feeds a crowd.
Prep time: 30 min Cook time: 30 min Ready in: 1-hour Yields: 12

13 Ways to Serve Chili

You can get in touch with your creative side and come up with some mysterious Chili. Think outside the box, and your signature dish will be a pleasingly hit. To save time in the kitchen, cook the meat and beans ahead of time. Make one big pot on the weekend and eat it during the week. And then, the leftovers get used in varies ways reinvented into a whole new dish.

  • Serve with oyster crackers.
  • Open a bag of corn chips and pour into a baking dish, top with chili and shredded cheese. Bake in the oven until bubbly.
  • Grease a baking dish. Spread leftover mashed potatoes in the bottom of pan; top with chili and shredded cheese. Heat in oven until bubbly.
  • Preheat oven to 450 degrees. Grease a baking dish. Pour chili in the bottom of the pan. Mix up a small bowl of cornbread batter. Pour mixture over chili and bake for twenty minutes until brown.
  • Make quesadillas using chili and cheese as a filling.
  • Make Burritos using chili and cheese as a filling,
  • Serve over hot dogs and top with Sauerkraut,
  • Serve over noodles and top with Parmesan cheese,
  • Serve over rice
  • Spoon hot chili over freshly cooked french fries and top with shredded cheese.
  • Scrambled Egg and Chili Burrito
  • Chili and Cheese Omelet
  • Throw a party and make a chili bar with several of your favorite topping


When it comes to chili, everybody has ways to make it and many ways to serve chili, freshly made or leftovers. As with many other foods. However, you can't have all that yumminess without spices.

Compounds called capsaicinoids in chili peppers; linked to a lower risk of chronic disease, weight loss, and more. Capsaicin, a capsaicinoid, stimulates TRPV1 receptors, which are found in many body tissues and appears to be responsible for many spicy foods’ beneficial effects. Capsaicin stimulates beneficial brown fat, helping to boost metabolic rate, and potentially speed weight loss.

Thursday, February 14, 2019

How to Plan An Intimate Brunch

Brunch Concepts

Preparing a meal for others is a way to extend your heart. Dining together allows us to get to know each other better and connect with those we love. You can let your table setting speak for you. People will forget what you did and what you said, but people will always remember how you made them feel.

For brunch, I like to use my blue and white mixed matched patterns. Remember that sometimes less is more. Preferably use a tablecloth or placemats is determined by the occasion. As well as what food will grace it.

When having the girls over for tea, I would dress the table with a tablecloth, cloth napkins, breakfast plates, cups & saucers, and a platter of finger foods as a centerpiece. That is all that is needed.

For a romantic brunch for two, I like to have two place settings. The main course would be in the kitchen and desert in the sitting room. I want to have music in a different being vaguely heard from both chambers.

Romantic kitchen setting will have four placemats completed with two table settings and cloth napkins. The other two placemats will display main courses — flower arrangement as a centerpiece, fresh fruit, and bread.

A romantic, sitting room setting, displayed on the coffee table with candlelight, breakfast plates, and cups & saucers and cloth napkins. I would bring the rest of the fruit from the kitchen — also, toppings to put on the fruit and the central desert.

Brunch Main Dishes

The main course does not have to be fancy or complicated. Most people prefer simple contemporary food. In this fast-paced world, it is not easy to get family, friends, or acquaintances together for a home cooked meal in a dining setting and on a budget.

With work schedules and family responsibilities, Brunch is an excellent opportunity to meet and greet friends or business associates that add richness and fruitfulness to our lives.

Good Wholesome Gravy

From caramelized juices to a tasty gravy, this dish can complement a simple or elegant meal. The creatively in this dish is amazingly endless.

After removing cooked meat from a pan, do not let the drippings go to waste; only add some broth or wine in the drippings to deglaze. With one or two tablespoons of flour stirred in, it will make the paste. Then add enough water to make gravy. Seasonings added for a more flavorful sauce. Add salt and pepper to taste.

The sauce should be served hot. Sautéed diced vegetables (onions, peppers, mushrooms) can be included in the drippings or added to the gravy. Also, you can add shredded cooked meat (chicken, sausage, other). Being served from a gravy boat compliments any table.
"Gravy is the simplest, tastiest, most memory-laden dish I know how to make: a little flour, salt and pepper, crispy bits of whatever meat anchored the meal, a couple of cups of water or milk and slow stirring to break up lumps." — Dorothy Allison

Breaking Bread

The aroma of baking bread is irresistible and pleasingly uplifting. It is always worth the endeavor. The food, a symbol of love and harmony, can be served with honey butter, jellies, sauces, gravy or other. A meal is not complete without bread. The ways you can serve is endless.  It complements any table and every meal. As the bread passes around the table, it uplifts our spirits.

How Do You Like Your Fruit?

  • Fruit - Appetizer, Main Course or Dessert
  • Rainbow mixed fruit bowl with vanilla dressing
  • Fruit salad with raisins, coconut, and vanilla dressing
  • Fruit with cake, vanilla pudding, and cool whip salad
  • Fresh fruit and crushed cookies transform plain yogurt into a guilt-free treat worthy of devouring.
  • Fruit topped pizza
  • Fruit custard or pie
  • Watermelon
  • Pear halves topped with mayo and a cherry.

Tuesday, February 12, 2019

Tiny Houses

Simple Out Door Living

Why build a large house when you have much outdoor space. Otherwords, a tiny home or camper is all you need. It is almost like camping 365 days a year. It is one of life's simple joys.

A love for grilling is the best reason to step outside into your backyard. Build a  deck or patio for simple living. You can install an outside fireplace kit. It will be necessary for those cold days and evenings. Grills including outdoor kitchenettes make close-by counters a must, year round.

Whether your outdoor area is a deck or a patio with several acres or a half an acre, dining outdoors is a much-anticipated ritual, entertainment, and pastime during all seasons of the year. Take an idea from establishments that turn sidewalks or patios into outdoor cafes.  

Remodeling your lawn, deck or patio into a dining area requires minimal effort—just general sense and planning. Follow simple or complex design ideas and tips to improve the experience for you and your guests.

Living Off Grid

Living Off Grid

Monday, February 11, 2019

Spiritual Gifts And Talents

Step Out In Faith

It is so natural for you to use your spiritual gifts and talents within your comfort zone. I relate! When you step out of your comfort zone,  magic is significant in its strength and extent; it is essential to make it all visible to yourself.

You can't see what you can't see -- until you acknowledge your fears. Your spiritual gifts and talents are priceless. To be seen, heard and recognized so that “you” can experience the deeper waters.

“Here I am Lord, use me.”

God has given us all talents. Yes, we all have them. We need to use them for God’s glory and stop deserting our skills. You have opportunities to get your talent noticed and will you get some enjoyable and rewarding experiences. Sometimes we need a nudge. The compensation may not be in payment but reaps self-benefits and blesses the hearts of audiences.

"I've learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom - how great is that?" Soledad O'Brien

Form A Group

Seek people looking for singers, musicians, costume designers, dancers, models, speakers, photographers, storytellers, people that can brainstorm, have visualization skills, are adaptable, and great imagination and the list goes on.

You will be able to improve your self-esteem and make a real and positive contribution to your life and others. You will be able to look back with pride on your adventures and be satisfied.

"Hard work opens doors and shows the world that you are serious about being one of those rare - and special - human beings who use the fullness of their talents to do their very best." Robin S. Sharma

Pray And Ask God

God can shift things around for you and let things work in your favor. God closes doors no man can open & God opens doors no man can shut. Do you need God to open some doors for you?

Many times, God will confirm His will through His Word and others; such as Godly counsel. 

Usually, you know it is an open door from God when you have to rely on Him. Some people try to do things of the flesh. When it’s God’s will, we must ask Him to bless the work of our hands.

"You know, God will give favor to anyone who will believe Him. Every day you should confess that you have favor everywhere you go. God will begin to open doors that you wouldn't believe." Joyce Meyer

How Do You Measure Yourself

You are never to measure yourself with someone else's rules. We all are unique. We all have individual talents. Some more, some less, but all are special. Some are great cooks, great teachers, lawyers, farmers, or law enforcement officers. Some have chosen to be caregivers to others. Some are ministers, and some even volunteer at hospitals.

When someone says, "You just don't measure up." Tell them, "I don't use your ruler, either."

  • Everyone can become better.
  • We all should want to make a difference.
"One measure of your success will be the degree to which you build up others who work with you. While building up others, you will build up yourself." James E. Casey 

What Does The Holy Bible Say?

Bible Verses About Talents, Gifts, Spiritual Gifts, Skills, and Abilities

Acts 1:8 - But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost comes upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.

Romans 1:11 - For I want to see you, that I may impart unto you some spiritual gift, to the end ye may be established;

Romans 12:4-5 - For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:

Romans 12:6-8 - Having then gifted differing according to the grace that given to us, whether prophecy, [let us prophesy] according to the proportion of faith;

1 Corinthians 12:1 - Now concerning spiritual [gifts], brethren, I would not have you ignorant.

1 Corinthians 12:4-11 - Now there are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit.

1 Corinthians 12:7 - But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to every man to profit withal.

1 Corinthians 12:27-28 - Now ye are the body of Christ and members in particular.

1 Corinthians 13:2 - And though I have [the gift of] prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

Ephesians 4:11-13 - And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers;

Ephesians 4:12-13 - For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:

1 Peter 4:10-11 - As every man hath received the gift, [even so] minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.

"Willie Mays could throw better, and Hank Aaron could hit more home runs. However, I've got enthusiasm. I've got a desire. I've got a hustle. Those are God-given talents, too." Pete Rose 

Glorifying God

God works in different ways through each of us, and we all serve him faithfully as we use our gifts to glorify him. We should invest the gifts that God has blessed us with wisely.

We should use our gifts and abilities to honor God and to bless, encourage, and strengthen others in love (without love, all our tips are nothing!). We should not neglect our gifts but instead develop them, “stir them up,” “fan them into flames” so that they get even better, to the edification of the church and the glory of God.

"It has been my observation that the happiest of people, the vibrant doers of the world, are almost always those who are using - who are putting into play, calling upon, depending upon the greatest number of their God-given talents and capabilities." John Glenn

How Many Talents Do You Have?

Make a list of your Talents, Gifts, Spiritual Gifts, Skills, and Abilities. What steps can you take to improve? Make a list of ways you can use each one.

Ask For Help

Sunday, February 10, 2019

Why Do Men Cheat With Their Exes?

It's a Cycle

I've always said that exes are like boomerangs. But we must remember, After all, when you pull milk out of the 'fridge, and it's spoiled, you don't put it back and hope it's fresh tomorrow. Therefore,  Therefore, reconnecting is not an option for me.

Exes Are Like Boomerangs

  • Memories. It’s a good reason for them to return when there was a real physical relationship.
  • The Do-Over. After they've made a few mistakes, they end up altering their behavior and patterns, If they made a bunch of errors with a past partner, yet felt that there was a real connection, men return for a second go-round, presumably more prepared.
  • Single Again. Males and females on the rebound tend to reconnect. Being a boomerang is more common than you think. The reasons vary, but mostly due to memories and want a do-over.
  • Quite often a man will miss his ex just because he’s lonely. Even though he might have a good relationship with his new girlfriend or wife, he has a longing for his ex. He’s not necessarily, wishing they were back together per se, just wants to reach out to the woman he was once close to and keep that spark.
    By reaching out with a simple phone call, email, or text message, they're testing the waters and will gauge what is possible by the reaction.
    • Some Men Regrets Breaking up With The Ex
    • Some Men Still Loves the Ex

    Spying On The Ex

    Some men do spy on the ex regularly. They find excuses to call or visit. They stalk and sometimes harass. They don't do it out of spite or revenge. They feel the need to spy because they are needy.

    Harassment covers a broad range of behaviors of an offensive nature. For example, repeatedly texting. More often than not, the behavior disturbs or upsets the ex. Harassment is characteristically repetitive.

    Sometimes the behavior has a positive outturn. These men either have an affair with the ex, relationship with no strings attached, or get back into a relationship where they live together again.
    "Men are, literally lying in bed with their wives when the marriage is essentially over, thinking, 'I've got to get the hell out of here,' and have a fantasy woman in mind. Then you get divorced, meet a woman, marry her, and by the time all that goes by, you've aged a few years and are ready to go back to your ex-wife."  — Alec Baldwin

    Why Infidelity

    I believe that unhappiness tops the list of reasons for a man's infidelity and his desire to reconnect with his ex. But when it is significant to the root of that unhappiness, there is a broad range of catalysts, and every scenario is different. Is it due to lack of communication, jealousy, problems in the bedroom, the wife doesn't take care of the home, the wife has gained weight, woman overspends money, and the list goes on?

    I believe that the main reasons why infidelity is; The woman's appearance has changed.
    The woman's overspending of money. The woman has become a mean person. 

    Specific Types of Men Are Focused On Instant Gratification

    He is a dog. No ifs, and's, or but's about it. He will meet any of his exes any place at any time if any of them are willing to hook up with him. He loves playing the field. I describe that type of man as a sex addict.

    Being Remorseful

    But the flip side of cheating is no walk in the park either. The anxiety that comes with sneaking around, the guilt you feel after committing the crime and having to see your partner who is none the wiser about what you've done, and, if you decide to, breaking the news is incredibly unpleasant.

    Saturday, February 9, 2019

    Shabby Chic Decorating Tips

    Know Your Style

    Decorating your home or office should be personal, and your goal is to ensure you get the right pieces. You want the right look, at the best price. Almost anything can have a natural place in shabby chic interiors making your spaces look like scenes from the old movies.

    My house is dangerously overwhelming. I decided to liven it up Shabby Chic Style. I paired it very vibrant colors and rugs, I think that they're fascinating and they're natural.
    "I like my house to be unique to me. Sure, I've bought plenty of things out of a catalog, but the way I put them together in my home is special. Even though you might have bought your sofa at a major home decorating store, the rug you found at the flea market is so unique; it takes your room from 'carbon copy' to 'simply yours' in no time" Nate Berkus.

    Shop Flea Markets

    As you go to a flea market or garage sale, you see lots of things you've never seen before.

    Shop from flea markets, garage sales, thrift stores, and Estate sales. The beautiful thing about shopping in flea markets is there is no pressure. From casual décor to custom designs, there is a fantastic selection of antiques, vintage decor, flowers, handmade creations, and more. You can plan out every room in your home and know that you won’t have to spend a fortune to get the look or quality you deserve.

    Flea markets regularly add furnishings to their store. You can browse one day and come in another day to find a host of new tables, lamps, or accessories.

    Wall Color

    The color gray is a versatile shade. Medium gray walls along with white trim quickly become the canvas for your wrought iron, metals, mirrors, and earthy wood tones. Beadboard on the bottom half of walls lends depth to the palette.
    "Good food and a warm kitchen are what makes a house a home. I always tried to make my home like my mother's, because Mom was magnificent at stretching a buck when it came to decorating and food. Like a real Italian, she valued beautification in every area of her life, and I try to do the same" Rachael Ray.


    If an eclectic look is a goal, pieces can be different colors, shapes,  and sizes. The key is to capture the tarnished style that characterizes charm. Accessories are a blend of vintage, modern, hard, soft, shiny, and dull. Whether they are what knots, vases, candle holders, picture frames, art, paintings, or old signs; these accent pieces are intentionally mismatched.

    Enhance your decor with beautiful knobs made of cast iron for the doors and drawers throughout your home.

    Improve your pottery, baskets, and decorative pots with green leafy plants. Jugs and jars can be used to house cooking utensils. Old tin canisters make good organizers.


    Wrought iron or metal bed painted white gives the bedroom a comfy old style cottage feel. With homemade furnishings, a vintage clock, natural lighting, and natural wood furnishings create a magical feel.

    Furniture pieces are distressed, whether through the passage of time or intentionally. Rather whitewashing, two-color painting palette, or natural wood, your goal is to create a vintage look.

    Choosing Fabrics

    Upholstery fabric with florals, stripes, and patterns or mix-matched with the same colors for easier pattern mixing, pair up with the same background colors. Both lace and burlap add texture.

    Accent your windows with Elegant fabrics, panels, curtains, valances, swags, or scarves that make a stylish statement.


    I quite like antiques. I like old things and the history they bring with them. I shop at thrift stores a lot. I look for silver pitchers, iron/metal pots, pottery, vases, and I put my flowers in those.

    I was always fascinated, even as a child, by antiques and ancient times. I always felt I should have been born in the 17th or 18th century.

    It doesn't take money to have style; it just makes a great eye. Sometimes you can find rare antiques that make your home feel like an old French home.

    Fine Art is Like Old Folks

    A room sits empty
    full of potential
    like fine art
    begins with a pencil
    Paints to decorate
    with gentle strokes
    it is fine art
    like old folks
    Windows with draperies,
    furniture with new stain
    it is like fine art
    that fills an empty frame

    Thursday, February 7, 2019

    Is It Entirely A Man's Fault He Cheats?


    Many, if not most, men are creatures who harbor plenty of insecurities. With technology being at everybody’s fingertips, infidelity is more natural. Computers, instant messaging, texting and cell phones take what an innocent friendship, an acquaintance, business partner or work colleague to an affair.

    I believe that most men do not dream of being unfaithful. I guess even the best of them do it? Hanging out with other men and women who are cheaters would defiantly become a factor. Flirting back with a flirtatious person is another factor. Therefore cheating is a two-way street, and for cheaters, it is a revolving door.

    If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, you should ask yourself some questions before cheating: Why do you think about cheating? How will it affect your relationship with your partner? What is the worst-case scenario? Is it worth the cost?
    "I think they should create a holiday for friends-with-benefits relationships. Because I feel like Valentine's Day is, maybe it's a day to stay home and cry." Elizabeth Meriwether

    Should Women Share The Blame?

    Unless the man is a complete jerk, I believe men cheat on women because the woman gives them reasons to do it. I think most are faithful unless his mate shows him different. If his partner is not giving him what he wants, then he will go and find it. What is a man to do when his woman starts hot and intimate then turn cold?
    "Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.' Martin Luther

    A Mistress Lifestyle

    A mistresses job is to focus on helping and giving pleasure to men, at the same time as involving activities such as drinking fine wine, eating great food, listening to music and of course, having great sex. Mistresses take advantage of men’s uncontrollable or wandering needs.

    These women are required because some married women have decided to cross their legs for an extended period and the husband has no choice but to arrange for some alternative. Other women have let themselves go — there is nothing less valued than a commodity that no one else wants. He can’t stand the sight of his partner and find cheating to be a solution.

    These men (cheaters) look for women more desirable than their wives. These men get tired of being put down. They get sick of the arguments, so they go out to find someone to refuel.

    Bottom Line, Become The Woman He Fell In Love With, Then You Will Have No Worries.

    If you want to keep your man interested, you have to keep him intrigued. Take advantage of what he likes and pamper him a little. Make sure he feels like a man that is loved, and he'll feel like he's connected with you. He will secure that bond. Let him see you as a sexy woman.
    • Be more mysterious.
    • Be confident, look great. You can view your best, with a little effort. You don't need to be a model to look good.
    • Personal hygiene is essential not only to look and smell your best, daily, but it is sexy to a man
    • Smile more and lighten up on the nagging. No one enjoys an atmosphere of nagging, in any relationship. As a treat, do your man's task. Don't be so hard on him when he forgets something. Try to find some happiness.
    If you trust him and he loves you, he won't want to give you a reason to revoke that trust. 

    The Sex Addict

    Sex Addiction Is A Legitimate Mental Disorder
    • A person is defined as a sex addict when his behavior gets out of control and starts to hurt his life. These feelings and behaviors cause lots of shame, hopelessness, and confusion for the sex addict. These feelings are also frequently accompanied by denial, despite it being an unmanageable problem in the sex addict's life.
    Sexual addiction takes up an enormous amount of energy, and you know you’re in trouble when your behavior causes relationship breakdowns, job problems, legal issues, and a loss of interest in anything non-sexual. The first step is to talk to somebody, your general practitioner, your religious leader or a therapist.

    Monday, February 4, 2019

    I Learned To Be A Better Mother-N-Law

    Passive-Aggressive behavior manifested in clear patterns.

    Never show anger. It’ll only fuel the fire. I may have been justified to feel furious, but so what? I should never try to prove I'm right; it’s about not making a bad situation worse. I learned to bite my tongue and practice patience until the case passes.

    No one knows better than a mother-in-law that the relationship between her and her daughter-in-law can be prone to hurt feelings and power struggles. I need to understand her, learn more constructive ways to assert them.

    And as a mother-in-law I have gripes of my own, I don't know "exactly" what upsets my daughters-in-law the most. I figure that recognizing the problem can help me fix it. I took a few deep breaths then took a look. I realized I couldn't solve all of our bumpy problems.

    Daughters-in-law need autonomy, they need independence, and when I offer unwanted advice and help, I undermine that. I have learned to think twice before offering my two cents worth.
    "I feel like you get more bees with honey. But that doesn't mean I don't get frustrated in my life. My way of dealing with frustration is to shut down and to think and speak logically." Beyonce Knowles

    Unwanted Advice

    Parenting advice? Thanks, but no thanks; seems to be the way both of my daughters-n-law feel about it. The way I see it, they both are saying, "If I'm looking for tips, I've got plenty of resources, friends, my pediatrician, my mother, and most importantly, your son. Unless we specifically ask for your opinion, let the two of us figure it out. We want to raise our kids our way, mistakes and all."

    No one likes unsolicited advice. To a daughter-in-law, it seems like criticism, “She may hear it this way: ‘I’m the one who knows. You need my input. You’ll be better off doing things my way.’”

    Even if my advice comes from a place of love, chances are she hears me as threatening her authority and challenging her role as a mom and caretaker in her family. It’s a lack of regard for the younger woman’s power and control of her family space.

    I feel like my tongue is bleeding; from so much biting. I think my daughter-n-law's philosophy on mothering, cooking, and housekeeping is somewhat different than mine, but it is none of my business. Even though my daughters-n-law asks mother's for advice, she seems offended when I make comments. Then it's back to biting my tongue.

    In an ideal world, I think of my daughters-in-law as my daughters, and she’d think of me as another mother. But for some women that may be very hard.
    "The only thing more intimidating than a huge international film star is your mother-in-law." Benjamin Walker

    Speak No Evil!

    Lots of things were said from a place of love but were deeply insulting to my daughter-n-law.

    Sometimes, I have to tread very lightly. An even question can come off as judgmental. There are differences in how my daughter-in-law raises her children versus how you did it. I have recognized this.

    I began to focus on the things I appreciate in my daughter-n-laws. They both have gone out on a limb for me. Be it, letting me watch the grandbabies, taking me places, eating out with me, giving me my mother's day wishes, and welcoming me into their homes.

    Don't Burn Bridges!

    Do you talk to your son about his wife? Simply put, don’t. Complaining to your son about his wife puts him in a challenging position, In fact, your son should put a stop to it. She’s his partner, he loves her, and he doesn't want to hear anything negative about her.

    But you, as the more mature one, know that your daughter-n-law holds the keys to the kingdom, your son and your grandkids. And you should also know, even if she doesn’t, that if you put your son in the middle, the chances are he’ll defend his wife and kids. Not you.

    Don't talk about your daughter-n-law to anybody. Besides, you don't want your complaints to come back to your daughter-in-law, it would hurt her. Not necessary what you said as for you said anything and that burns bridges.

    There Is Treasure Along The Rainbow.

    I know that there will always be resentment, some appreciation, and mixed feelings between me and my daughters-n-law. I can only work on me and be accountable for my words and actions. Instead, let my love shine always.