Tuesday, January 29, 2019

Rosa's Southern Brunswick Stew

Brunswick Stew


The thing with Brunswick stew is that you’re primarily using leftovers or what is in your cabinets to make a hearty, thick stew the family will enjoy—which is probably why there isn’t anyone recipe that is thought to be the original or the genuine article.

It seems there is practically no right or wrong way to make it. Make it personal. Serve the stew with whatever else your family might enjoy.

The consistency about tasty Brunswick stew is that it’s flavorful and robust with a tomato base. For me, a stew is different from soup in that I put a lot of meat in mine and make it thick.

In the recipe that I share with you below, I use a lot of vegetables. I don't always make the same version twice. Sometimes I throw in leftovers and canned cream corn. I like it with beans, corn, onions, and potatoes, along with chicken and pork.

I make up a big pot of stew, share with a crowd, and then freeze the rest in small portions.

I cook the chicken and sausage first, shred them, and then add the unique ingredients that make the stew hearty and full of flavor. Just remember, it’s got to be tomato-based, and it has to be thick—not like soup. I just let it all simmer. I do hope you’ll like it.

Ready to give it a try? Alright then, let’s get cooking!

Recipe - Cook Time

Prep time: 1 hour Cook time: 1 hour Ready in: 2 hours Yields: 12


Recipe - Ingredients

2 pounds of chicken breast

16 ounces frozen baby lima beans
16 ounces of frozen corn
3 potatoes, diced into small pieces
1 onion, peeled and diced
1 pound sausage
16 ounce can tomato sauce
16 ounce can stewed tomatoes
8 ounces ketchup
1/4 cup vinegar
1 tablespoon brown sugar
1/2 tablespoon black pepper
1/2 tablespoon salt
1/2 stick butter
1/2 cup Worcestershire sauce
1/4 cup hot sauce


Recipe - Instructions


I start out on high heat and let the water come up to boil. Then, I reduce the heat down to medium-low and add two pounds of chicken breast. Cook at a low boil for about one hour; you want to make sure you have enough water in the pot to cover the chicken and keep it submerged while it cooks.

Remove the chicken from the pan when it's done, and place it in a colander to let it cool. Shred the chicken once it cools enough to handle.

In the chicken broth, add 16 oz bag of frozen baby lima beans and a 16 oz bag of frozen corn. Peel three potatoes and one onion; dice them into small pieces. Toss them into the pot with the beans and corn. Add enough water to the vegetables to cover them by about two inches. Note; I like to rinse my potatoes before peeling and dicing them.

Place the pot over medium heat on your stove, and let it come up to a low boil. Reduce the heat down to medium, and let the vegetables cook until the beans are tender.

Shred the chicken into small bite-size pieces and add to the vegetables. 
Scramble a pound of sausage in a skillet over medium heat. Drain off the grease. Add to vegetables.

Add 16 oz canned tomato sauce and a 16 oz can of stewed tomatoes. Also, I add ketchup at the end. It complements the stew.

Add 1/8 cup of vinegar, a tablespoon of brown sugar, a tablespoon of black pepper, 1/2 tablespoon of salt, 1/2 stick of butter, 1/2 cup of Worcestershire sauce, and 1/4 cup of hot sauce to the stew. 

NOTE: Best to be safe and start out with a few drops of hot sauce if you are uncertain about the amount to use. You can always add extra as needed. The sauce is added for flavor, not to make it spicy. You may want it to be kid-friendly, and you’ll be happy with your dish. I usually end up adding 1/4 of a cup. I don’t like spicy, hot foods, and this was just right for my palette.

Simmer. Grab a big spoon, and give it all a good stirring. Finally, top it off with some ketchup; then give it another stir. Let the stew simmer over medium heat, often stirring, until the stew is a little bubbly. If it's a bit dry-looking, add some extra chicken broth. Enjoy!


The Taste Test


You should always taste the stew to see if you think it needs a little more of something. Let your taste buds decide for you. You may want a second opinion. Two people don't always taste the same things.

Monday, January 28, 2019

Ways to Have a Successful Booth in a Flea Market Mall

Tagging Aggressively

I think when you get interested in buying and selling antiques, collectibles, vintage, and high-end home furnishings, the most frustrating thing is you have no idea what price you should pay and what you should ask for the item to make a reasonable profit.

"Priced to sell' - just the phrase makes me joyful. When I say all the items in the booth are priced to sell; I mean, I've tagged everything as gracefully as I can to get you to buy it. I am an enterprising person determined to succeed. I am a go-getter making an all-out effort.

I like to think of my spot in the mall is thrifty and unusual.
"My flat is a bit like an oriental bazaar. It's filled with the oddest objects from all my travels, and you can't move in it. I love collecting antiques and often spend weekends driving around bric-a-brac markets." — Mark Shand

Booth Appearance

My booth is a box, the size of a walk-in closet. I present it as a place of joy and a celebration of who I am. You enter it and see every color of the rainbow. I shop for items that are pleasing to my eyes and my creative mind. I like edgy but classic looks. It's pretty spectacular since I am a Gypsy girl.

My booth is very traditional. For me, decorating perfection means eclectic styles and collections of beautiful things like pottery, sewing machines, real wood furnishings, unusual looking pieces, and unique, colorful items. Also, I love 'shabby chic.' It gives my booth a homey-cozy vibe. I keep my box organized, neat, and clean.

Shopping

The local thrift stores are my go-to when I'm looking for rustic or unusual shelving. Sometimes I find things that I can flip. Sometimes I can get an item that I can dress up and place in my booth to draw attention. I am always thinking outside the box. Sometimes I have to go into overdrive and aggressively shop for items.

Fixer-Uppers

People throw out good stuff all the time. It's just a matter of stopping and loading it into your vehicle. Like the saying goes, "One man's trash is another man's treasure."

Sometimes you have to make do with whatever you have access to; many hand-me-downs, beside the road findings, abandoned houses and thrift store shopping.

Make-Or-Break Factors

Display With Confidence

I think of my booth as a mini store. With all the competition, I want my box to stand out, giving my customers the desire to enter and shop. I want my customer's eyes to get big as they come. Also, I want them to take their time browsing. I want my merchandise to move, to sell. I want my booth to be like a revolving door.

There are many factors in whether a client enters a store shop. Here are a few tips that work for me.
  • Start with a theme then bring in the pieces.
  • Every few days, a different look.
  • Surprise your recurring clients by avoiding the predictable
  • Use shelving of bold colors and shapes.
  • Coffee and end tables do make great shelving
  • Take advantage of all wall space.
  • Keep a focal point at eye level.
  • Suspend items from the ceiling.
  • Make use of the floor space.
  • Pack your booth elegantly.
  • Give your "box" the "wow" factor.
I have recurring clients because they never know what treasures they will find in my closet. 


Fleamarket Booth





From Trash To Treasure

One Man's Trash Is Another Man's Treasure

I drive around in neighborhoods and picking up free stuff at the curb... I clean it up, fix, repair, sand, stain or paint the items. I list it on the Marketplace and other sites. I have sold on eBay and craigslist.


I made nearly $7000.00 last year on stuff that folks threw away. Cannot believe what people throw out... I call it Trashing for Treasures… I have picked up more free lumber for my "handyman do list" projects than I do at the building supply stores… My friend is a whiz with the electric saw… We made birdhouses, plaques, tables, and more with free wood.

Birdbath

I even picked up a nice concrete bird bath and a metal glider for my yard… I took it home, set the birdbath up in the front yard, cleaned it up and spray painted it, filled up with water and planted flowers around it. I cleaned up the metal glider and spray painted it. It was a nice addition to my front porch.

 I even get in on someone cleaning out their rental houses, grandmother’s homes, people moving, etc. People set lots of good stuff at the curb. It's free for the taking.




Diva - Sugar & Spice But Not So Nice

Behind Every Woman There Is a Story


Women come in all shapes and sizes. Each personality does not fit all women. All of us can blow steam at any given moment. Some more often than others. Some women are too classy to pitch a fit. Some woman has natural beauty and doesn't even know it. Most of us can go from a sophisticated woman to a loud-mouthed woman in a matter of minutes and visa verse.

The Sophisticated Woman - Sugar & Spice But Not So Nice


The most recognized characteristic is she has her set of rules. She is Wonder Woman of this society. She is strong-willed, independent and believes she is capable of doing what she pleases. She thinks she is all that and then some. She has much self-respect; controls her emotions, manners and body language in a lady-like way.

She has no fear of the competition, willing to go the extra mile and backs down from no one. She is always in the learning mode, takes mental notes and keeps a journal. She is professionally inclined; be it a career or self-employment. She is aggressive, assertive, and ambitious and has much pride in her accomplishments; but yet insists on being treated like a lady and not data/objects.

She will not take on a task in which she is not passionate, preachy and pushy. She is self-made and desires to design her life and requires much space. She is a go-getter, goal setter and plans ahead. She is a positive thinker/optimistic. She thinks outside the box and sees the results. Sometimes things do not go as planned; then its time for a backup plan. Tomorrow is a new day.

When it comes to her fashion, she dresses for success, be it sexual, to hook a man, further a career or stand out. She is very much feminine, unique and has her style. She takes checks periodically in the mirror. She seeks self-worth, gratification and is true to herself/her beliefs but is very tactful in how she elegantly represents herself and in what she says and does. She is polished and well smitten.

She is the type of woman to step up to the plate, organize or re-organize events or groups, make a difference, sometimes change the way things were before and she gets away with it. Consciously or unconsciously, she irritates others and makes others feel uneasy. You may try to ignore her and argue with her but you can’t. Habitually, she can suddenly appear within a group or disappear from a group without prior notice.

As a friend, she will drop everything and come to your aid. She is your number one critic; offering constructive criticism pushes you to higher levels and encourages you. Relationships are vital to her. She always finds time for her best friends, her children and the man in her life.
"I dress in a sophisticated and classy way - I always dress in a way I know my mother wouldn't be embarrassed to see." Jessie Ware


The Crude Woman - Chili Peppers


The most recognized characteristic is she thinks she is equivalent to a man. This woman is arrogant, cranky and malicious. She is a Drama Queen of this society. She is a busybody and is always putting in her two cents worth. She has little respect for herself and others.

She fears the competition and will not take many chances. She is uneducated and inexperienced (it’s not her fault). She does not care to learn anything new. She never finishes what she starts. She thinks her know it all. She accuses others of mistreating her and takes everything personal (that’s the only mental notes she keeps).

She will take on many tasks and pretend to care or be interested in it. She will make things up as she goes. She is overbearing, inflexible and blunt. She does not care how she walks, sits, and flops down, mopes around or what tone of voice she uses. She tends to make sure people can hear and see her.

She does not care if she has the worst looking yard or car on the block (after all, it’s not her fault). When it comes to her fashion, she has none. She will wear the same thing over and over (hi heels and makeup are out). Most of the time, she will go from one extreme to the other.

She is the type of woman to follow the crowd (she needs someone to blame if things go wrong). She accuses others of not driving right and gets heated up to road rage. She consciously irritates others. You may try to ignore her or argue with her but you can’t. She lives in her world.

As a friend, be ready to jump when she calls. She needs to borrow this or wants that (wanting a hand out). Relationships, she can take it or leave it.
"Every third person in the world is a drama queen. Also, crying 'victim,' especially when you're not a victim in any real way, feels good. It feels good to cry victim if you're not one." John McWhorter

Conclusion:

"I keep my head, heels, and standards high. I am fun, single, amazing like a breath of fresh air, crazy like a fox, smart as a whip, nothing but the truth (not bragging just facts), the girl next door with a twist."  Rosa Ann Crowder



Sunday, January 27, 2019

Cotton Candy For Adults

Cotton Candy


It felt like my mouth was full of melting sugar.  I wondered, what is in my mouth? It is full of flavored sugary sand. It feels sort of like sugar glass crystals.  But as an adult, cotton candy can be taken to another level. 

Cotton candy contains mostly air, with a typical serving weighing around 1 ounce or 28 grams. It is often served at fairs, circuses, carnivals, and Japanese festivals, and sold on a stick or in a plastic bag. However, you can purchase the stuff at your local supermarket. 

I got to have a glass of my cotton candy wine tonight. I think it is delicious, with a light taste of the cotton candy. It could use a bit more of the cotton candy, and it could be just me, but like I said, it is delicious. I would purchase it again. 

Cotton Candy Cocktail


Fill glass with cotton candy.
Pour one-ounce vodka over the cotton candy.
Top with sparkling water and ice.
The cotton candy will melt immediately
Garnish with a cotton candy drink stick.

Cotton Candy Smoothies


Put  two scoops of ice cream in a blender
Fill with cotton candy
Pour two ounces of vodka over the cotton candy
Lightly mix
Wet rim of two glasses
Roll tip of glasses in colored sugar sprinkles
Pour the smoothie into the glasses
Top with cool whip



Friday, January 25, 2019

4 Reasons Why Dating an Older Man Is Not Wise

Prejudice and Gossip


If you get involved in a relationship of any kind, with an older man, you will probably have to cope with discrimination from other people. You may even have to deal with your logical and accustomed prejudices and misgivings.

Narrow-minded individuals will be inclined to think that you are an individual who cultivates a personal relationship with older men to accomplish wealth; most especially when your lifestyle shows prosperity.

If the man, who marries a younger woman is submissive, then the woman is considered a cuckold dress. These women are high-tech and get most of the awkward looks and stares.

Some people will assume that your older man is some sick pervert for dating a woman so much younger than he is. After all, it is a fact that boys will be boys, some older ones, do chase younger women. It is a way of making themselves, feels younger and to stroke their ego.

After he marries you, some people will judge him as he flaunts you around.

Different Energy Levels - A Biological Fact


Your older man will probably have more physical flaws than you think he does. For instance, his bottom will not be firm, and he might have a bit of a potbelly. Not to mention his salt & pepper hair or even gray hair; along with his wrinkles, could be a problem.

Older people will eventually become feeble. If you date and then marry an older man, you are going to have to deal with that fact.

Marrying an older man may mean that you eventually have to take care of him. Also, he will probably die long before you do.

Thinking about confinement, vulnerability, and death may be disturbing, but there are questions you must ask yourself before involving yourself with a man who is significantly older than you.

If the answers to your questions are likely to turn you off, then you have no business being with a man who is significantly older than you.

Your Older Man has Been There and Done That


The older man, being set in his ways, thinks he knows it all. How can you, the younger woman be happy? You may feel you have to fit into his world since he’s older, wiser and set in his ways. After all, he isn't willing to change.

There is a big part of your older man's life you have missed. One thing that comes with your older man is baggage. He will tell you story after story about his adventures, good or bad times. You may get tired of hearing about his past. You will want him to make new memories with you.

The older man isn’t likely to be interested in going out and doing the things you like to do. He may have a biased point of view. He may not want to pursue things that younger men love to do because he’s already been there and done that.

On the flip side; he could be going through his midlife crisis acting like a younger man. However, you are rapidly growing and changing. You’re coming into your own and finding your place in the world. But what will happen when the ball drops? Will you be able to deal with the change in his behavior; when he becomes his age, in mind, body, and soul? Will he be able to adapt to your changes?

Your Older Man will Shower You With Treasures  

Will He Treasure You?


Food for thought - The inside scoop to being a trophy girlfriend or wife.


Saying that age doesn’t matter is ludicrous. Of course, it matters, or it wouldn’t be such a big deal. The realization that you have essentially become a prostitute won’t sit well with you.
  • He is no different than younger men when it comes to using women as sex objects.
  • He manipulates you.
  • He is prone to jealousy or possessiveness.
  • You sacrifice your own goals.
  • You live in a beautiful home, drive a nice car and using a credit card that is all in his name.
  • If that’s what you are looking for, then go for it and have a blast.

Testimonials from Women who Dated Older Men

"At first, there was no issue. We began dating when I was on winter break during my freshman year in college. Because we worked together, we were able to spend time together, and I would come home from school on the weekends. Once we were a more formal couple things became much harder. None of my friends at school understood the relationship, and they had no interest in hanging out with him when he would come to visit me at school. Additionally, the friends that he had that were his age were incredibly judgmental of my age and the relationship. As a 30-year-old woman, I understand their hesitations now. As an 18-year-old, I thought they were close-minded". anonymous

"I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me, so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me. However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed, to only date close to my age again. I think that there is some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely." anonymous.



How To Flaunt Without Going Overboard

I Celebrate My Life    


As a woman, I have many opportunities to flaunt. There is no wrong place to show off your self. Flaunting is a celebration of life, so I feel free to celebrate wherever I find myself feeling, loving, and living it!

 I flaunt as if a photographer is taking pictures. “Hello world, I’m confident enough that I look good! I am a sophisticated woman that answers only to myself".


I Am Flaunt-Worthy      


An un-flaunted woman leads to a life unlived. Never put yourself down. Do not listen to that accusation of not being worthy. Get dressed up and go out there and flaunt as you mean it! However, never let it all hang out. Cover up your goods. Say, "Hello world, I am classy enough to go out without the need for anyone else’s approval!”

 Despite its causes, thoughtlessly blaming incidents or others is a weakness. Though regularly flaunting is sophistication, it can be an opportunity for one-upmanship and an excuse to get out into the world more often.


Flaunt

  1. To parade or display oneself, conspicuously, defiantly, or boldly.
  2. To wave conspicuously in the air.
  3. To parade or display ostentatiously: (to flaunt one's wealth).
  4. To ignore or treat with disdain.
"I think the best way to get over your body issues is; to just flaunt your body at every opportunity." Margaret Cho
"My mom is very Southern, and she in real life says things like, 'If you've got it, flaunt it." Cheryl Hines
"I used to have this saying: 'Every hallway and walkway is a runway.' Tyra Banks

I Advertise My Fashion Style     


I dress as if I am on a red carpet runway, especially in clothing, footwear, accessories, makeup, and my body.
 
To me, it seems like beauty is not in the eye of the beholder. Fashion can seem very difficult to catch and only for the advantaged. But it's easier to start taking strides in the right direction than you think, towards confidence and a fashionable wardrobe.
 
I check out the sale and racks in the upscale stores. I also hit the thrift stores for slightly worn clothes, shoes, purses, and others. Sometimes I think outside the box and buy a dress that isn't sexy. I alter the length and add a belt. With stylish jewelry and shoes, I look fabulous.

 Tip - If you have loads of items that don't fit anymore, do not keep them all to be hopeful. A closet that is full of clothes that no longer fits can be very de-motivating.
"A woman whose smile is open and whose expression is glad has a kind of beauty no matter what she wears." Anne Roiphe


I Try to be Classy From The Inside Out 


Imagine a mirror that can reflect your personality, what would you see? Sexiness is all about feeling beautiful with a charming personality; being genuine, confident, and being a real person.
 
I have my ethics and morals. I have my anchor point of what is right and wrong in real life. However, I'm not afraid to flaunt every aspect of my beauty and personality concerning creating my character.
 
I have discovered that you don't learn style from watching other people. Sexiness happens every morning when you wake up, and you put on your smile. Fashion occurs when you select your clothes, shoes, makeup, and jewelry. But your personality is the icing on the cake; it is how you act and flaunt with how you look and feel.
"Beauty is only skin deep. I think what's important is finding a balance of mind, body, and spirit." Jennifer Lopez


I Am In Love With Life, and My Smile Shows It 


I have been told that my smile is my most significant asset, and I flaunt it every chance I can.; even when I feel the blues, my smile shines out.
 
Life is full of beauty, notice the little things, the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, the grass, pick the wildflowers and feel the wind. Feel beautiful and act sexy. Live your life to the full potential, and aim for your dreams. Most of all, smile and laugh.
"I think confidence and courage goes such a long way with women. A girl who is confident with who she is and she can flaunt, that is sexy." Tristan Wilds

Flaunt-Worthy Is Sexy


Sunday, January 20, 2019

Kids Will be Kids v/s Bipolar and Drugs

Psychiatry and Psychology


 I think there is pretty good agreement about what bipolar in adults looks "like." However, bipolar in kids, there is some significant debates about where are the boundaries. 

At the mild end, could these just be kids who are active? Is this the "class clown" at the very least? - Is this something separate than a mood disorder?

I feel starting kids on psych drugs while they are in school is a huge reason our jails are full of meth addicts now. When the insurance runs out the addiction does not, adult kids turn to street drugs for their unscientific diagnosis of anxiety, depression and bipolar they grew up having. Some kids are drugged as young as one year old now, and most kids under age six are being drugged down with psych drugs. 

Desoxyn—The Legal Methamphetamine

Adderall is Meth's Brother. 


Psychiatrists are prescribing to kids over six so growing up addicted to Meth is a huge problem with these Psych Doctors having free range to drug our kids and fill our prisons as they turn to street drugs. Parents need to say NO.





Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Could You Live Without Toilet Paper?

Out House

Toilet paper, toilet tissue, bathroom tissue -  is a convenience that we take for granted. Sure we could live without it but would we want to.

History


  • A middle-easterner would use their left hand…. eew. Folks didn't know what hand sanitizer was back then.
  • Ancient Greeks used stones and clay. 
  • The Romans would use sponges. Usually, the sponge was on a stick.
  • In the early American West, it was widespread to use a catalog. If you were done looking at the Sears Wishbook, it ends up in the outhouse. 
  • Pioneers grew and harvested so much corn; therefore, the corn husks were one of their most popular toilet paper options. 
Toilet paper’s been commercially available in the United States since 1857 — and was produced splinter-free since 1935.

What to use when out of toilet paper


Despite its worldwide presence, the facts are that one day you'll find yourself in great need of toilet paper, and there will be none in sight. Toilet paper is a modern luxury that we tend to take for granted until the moment we reach for it and find nothing but a cardboard roll. So what do you do? Directly pursue all options — every single one of them.

baby wipes

washcloth
rags
paper towels
kleenex
coffee filters
newspaper
notebook paper
magazine
envelope
plastic bag
sponge
rubber gloves
spray bottle of water
lettuce leaves

I'm Not Right In The Head

Coping With Depression 


Depression Hurts - Depression is a mental illness that causes feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and emptiness. It is one of the most prominent mental diseases.

The first step is to talk to somebody, your general practitioner, your religious leader, or a therapist. All Doctors agree that stress, anxiety, pressure, doubts, and fears can hurt anyone’s health physically, mentally, and emotionally.

However, for many years, I existed in a state of persistent worry, stress, anxiety, fear, panic, and trauma that put a lot of pressure on me. External influences also have affected my moods and state of mind, but I got help, and so can you.

I Created a Monster in my Head


I had to demonize the critical voice and make it the enemy. For me doing so created physic warfare. I would create a reality with no basis in fact and convince myself that the things I was building were real. Was I a fake and meaningless person?

I felt as if I had a Demon on one of my shoulders and an Angel on the other shoulder; negative and positive thoughts about myself and my life. It was so destructive and didn't solve a thing.
I realized, with help, I deserve to love myself and be proud of me!

Judgments Hurt - Don't Be Victimized.


People called me crazy. The problem with this kind of logic is it's acting on flawed precepts. It is one of those off the wall phrases which coincides with the term 'nobody's perfect'; the human race tends to make mistakes, big and small.

We can play word games, tossing concepts around, but being called crazy is entirely inapplicable to the experiences of reality. I am the only person that has walked in my shoes. You are the only person that has walked in your shoes. Who are these "enlightened people" that has the right to judge?

Lifestyle Changes in Coping With Depression


You can further make lifestyle adjustments that can increase your self-esteem. Strive for as much stability as possible in your life. Set goals. Here are some thoughts;
  • eating a healthy diet - stop snacking and give up junk food
  • getting regular exercise - walk more, take the stairs, clean the house
  • getting a good night sleep - early to bed, relax
  • volunteering - hospital, nursing home, other
  • a new hobby - painting, needlepoint, other
  • socializing - join a bowling league, participate in a club, and spending time with friends who make you feel good about who you are.


Conclusion:


With self-control and persistence, I think that almost all individuals suffering from depression will develop improvement, experience a sense of comfort, and self-esteem once again. I believe that anybody who's had to contend with mental illness (whether it's depression, bipolar disease, or severe anxiety) has a fair amount of resilience. That they've had to deal with suffering already (personal pain).


Being a Grandmother To Other's

written March 31, 2014  - published later

Grandmothers


Grandparents have been the leaders of most households since the beginning. Grandparents are seen as a source of wisdom. Grandparents usually tell the best stories, like exciting tales about when they were youngsters. Grandparents will often drop everything to spend time with their grandkids. Grandparents do stand firm when it comes to right and wrong. But on the flip side, they give in to the grandchildren wants. 

When I raised my boys, I hoped to be a grandmother one day. My grandson calls me “Big Mama,” which I love it. My oldest son and his wife are expecting their second child, a girl. I know she will fill my heart with joy. However, I find myself having a great love for other children.

When I moved back to Whitesburg a little over three years ago, I never thought God was sending me to “love the children.” I learned when I was a child that “God is Love,” and if I want to be like Jesus, “I must love unconditionally.”

It Is A Spiritual Gift 


The first time I kept the nursery was two years ago during a revival. Then I was put on the rotation. Then I started helping on Sunday nights for our children’s program at Whitesburg Christian Church. I don’t know how it happened, but I started being the teacher of the toddler class. One of the toddler’s parents started coming to Sunday school, so I volunteered to be the Sunday school teacher for that class too. During VBS, I get to be their teacher.

My toddlers are learning to play together, share, and follow the rules. They love to play toy instruments and sing, and then I have them sit at the children’s table in the room and watch a movie while they eat. Elaine brings them a craft to do. Yes, they do participate and do his or her work with supervision. As far as myself, I love it.

One of the toddlers, I get to babysit outside of the church. I get to babysit him and his older sister, who is in Pre-K. It does my heart good. I am always thrilled when their mother texts or calls me. The little girl asked me if I can be her grandma. She started calling me “Big Mama.” Therefore when she comes to my house to spend the night, it’s like going to grandma’s house.

Love


I never thought I could love somebody else’s kids so very much, but I do. I enjoy it more than I have experienced anything. This is my purpose in life. This is my calling. The spiritual gift that I never knew I had until two years ago. I get to love on and spoil the children.

Being a grandparent to others is a big job, but grandparents have a lot of experience. I raised and cared for my boys when they were kids. I also cared for my nephews, some and my nieces a lot when they were kids. I was even a Brownie Troop Leader.

I get to help children develop skills to enhance their lifelong learning. In many ways, they help me stay young at heart. Because of these children, I have a positive attitude toward aging.


Tuesday, January 15, 2019

My Life is Not Your Story to Tell

Are You Writing a Book About Me


Is that juicy nugget of information about me nagging at you, begging you to release it to the rest of your friends and the rest of the world? Do you sense the urge to blab about me behind my back to make yourself little more attractive? It might appear to be a temptingly great idea at the time, to dump me right in the core of a humorous tale or an awkward moment. But will your friend think so? In fact, your friend will be examining your loyalty along with your shortage of tactfulness, wondering where the love you are supposed to have for your sister?

Some of the most excellent books are biographies and experiences that tell the life stories of other people. However, I don't want you telling my story. First of all, you don't have all the facts. Your stories about me are one-sided, offensive, and judgmental. Gossiping shows others your insecurity and mean-spiritedness.

Here is a tip! "Get a life" and stop talking about mine.

What Does The Bible say? 

"God is just: He will pay back trouble to those who trouble you and give relief to you who are troubled, and to us as well. This will happen when the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven in blazing fire with His powerful angels."  2 Thes. 1:6-7


Stop Talking About Me Behind My Back!


Gossip Hurts - Gossip is an unconstrained and often derogatory conversation about other people and can involve betraying a confidence and spreading sensitive information or judgments that are hurtful.

Is it always evil to talk about others? The answer is to view one’s intent in discussing another person and relationships.

If you talk about your friends, coworker, or a family member behind their back, imagine how it is inclined to make them feel. Before you drag along one more piece of information, pause and think about what you're doing. Then make an agreement with yourself to quit talking about people behind their back for good.

Speak No Evil

  • Research shows that individuals who gossip the most have very high levels of anxiety.
  • They are not particularly attractive because they can not be trusted.
  • Broadcasting private information or contrary judgments is painful to others and reflects badly on the gossiper.


Why Do People Gossip? Facts!

  • To feel superior - People who don’t feel good about themselves temporarily feel better when they judge others negatively.
  • Out of boredom - When people can’t generate exciting discussions based on knowledge or ideas, gossip can rouse people’s interest.
  • Out of envy - People gossip to hurt those whose popularity, talents, or lifestyle they envy.
  • To feel like part of the group - People gossip to feel as though they belong to the group. When the base of acceptance being “in on a secret,” it is not based on a person’s identity. It is a maliciousness way to earn friendships.
  • For attention - A person gets to be the center of attention temporarily while talking about somebody else's life. Spreading gossip or rumors is like demanding attention; it is unstable and has no foundation.
  • Out of resentment or unhappiness - A person can derive a sense of retribution with remarks.

Gossip Quotes/Sayings

"It is sad how some people are so jealous and intimidated by you that they only have negative things to say when they know absolutely nothing about you."
"Those who talk about others have lots to hide about themselves."
"I don’t trust anyone who talks wrong about someone else to me; they probably talk behind my back too."
"For someone who hates my guts, you sure talk about me a lot! Love me or hate me, it’s still an obsession."
"Rumors: are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots."
"O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice deceiving!"

Bitter Sweet - Counterfeit Friends - Poison


Lots of times, you can just sit back and look and see who your real friends are. Because lots of people pretend to be your friend but are not, I'm just saying, "Observe" and you can tell who the real ones are and who is just a counterfeit.

In other words, hate me all you want, try to start a crusade and try to recruit others to hate me. I couldn't care less, if there's one thing we can agree on is that I am not a fake friend collector.

I'm no longer surprised nor offended by individuals who use my life story for their pleasure.  Remember Karma! Everything that meant for harm for you will return to sender ten-fold. Now keep looking up and not around.


Friday, January 4, 2019

Meth - The Devil's Poison

How Can We Stop Producers, Sellers, Buyers, and Users? 

How Can We Protect The Next Generation?


Methamphetamine; crystal meth, is extremely addictive.  It can be practiced by snorting, injecting or smoking.  The elements of Methamphetamine are highly poisonous. Meth contains (lye), sodium hydroxide, lighter fluid, brake fluid, battery acid, drain cleaner, rubbing alcohol,  paint thinner, and many other items.

What to look for if you suspect your loved one is using Crystal Meth? 


Physical Warning Signs - Meth Abuse

  • Enlarged pupils
  • Inflamed eyes
  • Weight-loss
  • Uncontrolled jerking or twitching, such as eye twitching
  • Persistent nasal problems or nosebleeds
  • Faulty breath
  • Hard, split skin, particularly lips and fingertips
  • Dry jaws
  • Hair damage or loss
  • Unnecessary sweating
  • Shaded circles around the eyes
  • Severe weight loss, appearing bony and gaunt
  • Wounds, sores, red spots on the skin (from injecting meth)
  • Skin wounds from plucking at skin (meth users feel as if insects are under their skin)
  • “Meth mouth” – decaying teeth due to the result of the chemicals 
  • Burn places on fingers or mouth 

Behavior Warnings Signs of Crystal Meth Abuse


  • An excessive focus on trivial matters or task
  • Grinding or gripping teeth
  • Fidged, incapable of sitting still
  • Unnecessary talking/rambling
  • Insomnia, not sleeping for extended days
  • Sleeping for  days
  • Not eating for several days or has no appetite
  • Tedious behavior, obsessive-compulsive actions
  • Hyperactivity, agitated or anxious
  • Short-term memory impairment
  • Scratching or plucking at face/skin
  • Illusions
  • Psychosis and insanity
  • Threatening behavior
  • Mood anxiety
  • Hallucinations


Indirect Signs of Methamphetamine Use: 


These are implied indications of meth usage (and could implement other drugs that are smoked, snorted or injected).


  • Missing or stolen property, valuables and money
  • constant requests to borrow money, especially with nothing to show for it
  • Aluminum foil with scorch marks 
  • Straws (used with snorting and smoking)
  • Hollow plastic pens (used with snorting or smoking)
  • Tiny plastic zip bags
  • narrow pipes (used to smoke)
  • Rolled up paper (used to snort)
  • Razor blades, ID cards with a particles residue on them
  • Syringes and syringe caps (injecting)
  • Missing/removed shoelaces (used to tie injection places)
  • Rubber bands or straps (used to tie off)
If you suspect that someone you know is using methamphetamine or any other street drugs get help immediately.  It is a dangerous and deadly drug.  Because of its numerous acid chemical elements, it can severely endanger your loved one’s well-being and those around.  It is astonishingly addictive, so convincing your loved one to go to therapy, rehab, or see a doctor is crucial.

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